I struggle with the putting into action. I often second guess my decisions, wonder if things could have been done better, and look outside of myself for validation. This is not a good way to live and is something that I have made a concentrated effort on improving. Especially now that there is a Max in my life. I am determined to not pass my insecurity on to him.
Which brings us to potty training. We've been at it for two days and had ZERO success. It is very easy to feel failure in a situation like this. Why is it not clicking? Why won't he pee on the potty instead of the floor? What do I need to do to help him understand? Why does he just stand there and say "oh no" when he is peeing all over the place?! The obvious answer is he is just not ready.
It has not been fun. On the outside I have maintained a very cheerful attitude about it (don't want to give Max a negative attitude about this business) on the inside I have felt like a total failure. The pessimistic, insecure part of me wants to question why I am not a good enough mother to teach him this skill. The more rational part of me knows that it is early, and we probably should retire the underwear for now and come back to this in a few months. I also know that in reality this has very little to do with my skills as a parent. But man, that insecure side just wants to sneak into my brain and snicker at me.
But like I said, I'm making that concentrated effort to work on those insecurities. So, I'm calling this a trial run at potty training; it is not a failure. It was a learning experience and hopefully when we try again we it will be a successful experience.
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3 comments:
i'm sorry it's not going well. i stink at potty training and hope neilson will train creighton for me.
if you need to take a break for a week or so and have at it again.
Insecurity sucks, don't it?! But like you said, we have to just say those "rational" thoughts to ourselves over and over and over like a broken record. . .and maybe, just maybe will those "irrational" thoughts finally stay tucked away where they belong! And also remember, when it's time, it WILL happen.
Here's a story to make you laugh...hopefully. When we were potty training Nate, Floyd took him to the men's room at a restaurant. It was Nate's first time to use a urinal and he was soooooo excited. Well, the next day he told me he went potty at home so I went to check the toilet and saw no potty. I asked where the potty was and if he flushed it away already, to which he responded "No, it's on the wall. Just like Daddy showed me!" Yeah, that was fun to clean up and I wouldn't let Floyd take him to use the men's room for a long time.
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